How to Be at Peace

This week, like every week in the transformational work I do, I had a number of extraordinary conversations.

The result of these conversations: freedom, insight, inspiration, and power.

There’s a moment right before we feel free…

There’s a moment right before inspiration arises…

There’s a moment right before we feel the flow of power from within…

That moment is a moment of Peace.

Peace in the mind. Peace in the heart. Peace in our bodies.

Peace in our being.

Here’s how to be at Peace: give up that there’s something wrong.

When we give up that there’s something wrong with life, the world, others, or ourselves, we create a little room for Peace. And Peace only needs a little room to find a steady footing.

Where there's judgment, there’s no room for Peace.

Where there's judgment, there’s no room for Freedom.

Where there's judgment, there’s no room for Love.

I was on a call with a client today who was really stuck in a particular view of herself and her life. In our conversation, however, she began to get a powerful glimmer of freedom - and all it took was the willingness to be responsible for her judgments of herself and her circumstances.

When we give up our judgment that there’s something wrong, Peace becomes possible.

Peace begins with you. Give up that there’s anything wrong, then decide where you’d really like to come from.

The people in your life want this for you and them, and the world wants this from all of us.

Thank you reading. 🙏❤️

P.S. As a transformational life coach, I help teens, adults, and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌

Our Battles Begin With Self-Betrayal

So many of us spend our lives preparing for war.

We think about what we’re going to say. We think about what we should’ve said. We amp up our anger, frustration, and intensity. We flood our nervous systems with stress, anxiety, and tension.

Of course we think we need to prepare for war - our lives are full of battles:

We battle with our parents.

We battle with our siblings.

We battle with our colleagues.

We battle with our boss.

We battle with our kids.

We battle with our spouse.

We battle with our neighbors.

We battle with drivers on the road.

We battle with the other political party.

We battle with our emotions.

We battle with our will.

We battle with our thoughts.

The truth is, however, we wouldn’t feel the need to prepare for battle if we didn’t already live from a Heart at War.

Now look, we already covered that I’m not an optimist, so I don’t want you to hear this as Pollyanna vision through rose-colored glasses:

It is possible for each of us to live emotionally free and at peace free right now.

Fundamentally, we are each whole, complete, free, and perfect. We simply have barriers to our experience and expression of it.

We think the world is flawed and needs to be fixed. We think other people are flawed and need to change, die, or be fixed. We think we are flawed and need to be fixed.

Then we resign ourselves that this is just the way things are. “No, I’m not a pessimist, I’m a realist!”

This is why all our battles begin with self-betrayal.

We betray the truth about ourselves and then fight like hell to prove ourselves right.

We betray that inner knowing that a life of peace, love, and understanding is accessible to us all.

We betray the truth that Peace begins with me.

Once we betray the truth of our own capability and power, we can’t help but defend ourselves by blaming everyone else for the state of the world and our emotions.

But all our battles begin with self-betrayal. We wouldn’t be battling otherwise.

We’d be building a better life and world together now.

Thank you for reading. 🙏❤️

P.S. As a transformational coach, I help teens, adults, and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌

It's Not Optimism: I Consciously Create

As my mind wakes up in the morning, it sometimes finds so much wrong...with me, my life, others, and the world.

Even throughout the day, my mind’s default thoughts are usually pessimistic and judgmental - about others, about the state of the world, about myself, about my abilities, about my decisions, and about my life.

Really. Judgment and pessimism.

Today was no different. I woke up to rapidly flipping pages of negative and pessimistic thoughts in my mind. Yet, by the time I finished my morning routine, here’s what I was present to:

Today is the best day of my life.

This is not optimism! It’s creation.

The mind is ALWAYS creating - we are ALWAYS creating. We mostly don’t see it as creating, though. We think of it as reporting The Truth about reality.

Our opinions, our judgments, our grievances, our insecurities - they’re not The Truth! They’re all just thoughts created by a mind preparing for a war we don’t actually need to fight.

The mind is constantly creating, and we’re usually unconscious of what we’re creating - we just react to the world our thoughts have painted in our mind.

The mind is perhaps humanity’s greatest gift. It serves us incredibly powerfully. However, most of us have never learned to harness the mind’s power to create a life we love and a world that works. Instead, we listen to our default thoughts based on survival, safety, avoiding looking bad, and avoiding being controlled or dominated.

Something else is possible.

I love my mind (on purpose), and I am becoming masterful at consciously creating.

Consciously creating is not really a straight-forward, formulaic process, though. It can be challenging, and it's almost impossible to learn it on our own. That's why I do what I do: transformational coaching and training for teens and adults who make an impact. I help people become conscious creators.

To make our biggest impact, we can't live lives determined by our default pessimistic and judgmental thinking. And we don't need to be optimistic either.

Today is the best day of my life - thank you for sharing in some of it with me. 🙏❤️

P.S. As a transformational coach, I help teens, adults, and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌