Your Commitment to Excellence

I was interviewing for a job with a non-profit a handful of years ago. The head of the organization is someone I worked with previously. 

When it became clear that he wanted to hire me for the position, I asked him why he wanted me for the job. He said: “Everything you touch turns to excellence.”

And whoosh, all of a sudden, I knew myself as someone who is committed to excellence. 

I am committed to excellence in all I am and all I do. This commitment doesn’t mean I always deliver. It means I’m intend to deliver, and I’ll put everything I have into that commitment.

What I’ve discovered over the past few years of coaching is that each of us is committed to excellence in our lives in at least one area. Ultimately, this is where I work with clients - in those areas where they’re committed to excellence. 

Where are you committed to excellence in your life? Where are you not living up to your own standards of excellence?

I think these are critical questions. To live a life of alignment, integrity, and wholeness requires us to deal with where we are committed to excellence and where we’re not living up to that commitment. 

This isn’t about being “better.” It’s not about “making it.” This isn’t about “getting it right.” That’s not the game of excellence. That’s the game of conforming to what someone else told us we should be, we should want, or we should do.

Excellence is about honoring the Self, our true nature, and the life, vitality, and Source that animates us.

Maybe you’ve been feeling a call to level up your game in one or more areas of life. 

Maybe you’re ready to step up and move beyond where you’ve been limited.

Maybe it’s time for you to add fuel to your commitment to excellence.

Message me to discuss how working with me can support you.

Much Love. ❤️

Clearing Out the Gunk

I was a lifeguard during a few summers in high school. While my fellow lifeguards often disliked vacuuming the pool, I loved it! 

From dirty and gunky to clear and clean. 😁

Similarly, I love witnessing when a sink goes from clogged to clear. You know, over time, some sinks get a little backed up. They stop flowing freely and the water stagnates. 

That happens to us in life too (as kids, adolescents, and adults) - we build up gunk in our minds, hearts, bodies, and spirits. This gunk gets in the way of our living authentically and free. This gunk constrains us, our alignment, and our well-being.

Transformational life coaching clears out the gunk in our personal and professional lives so we can show up empowered, free, authentic, and profoundly effective.

Just like with the sink, when the gunk within our minds, hearts, bodies, and spirits clears, there’s a shift in our internal energy. There's more space to mentally, emotionally, and spiritually move and breathe.

In that space, new possibilities for being, feeling, and acting arise. 

There’s movement, there’s insight, there’s inspiration, there’s freedom. There’s a literal shift in the energy within us.

What's an area of your life where you're feeling a stagnation of energy? What might become possible if you cleared out the gunk and got the energy there moving newly?

Connect with me if you'd like effective support in clearing out the gunk and causing a profound shift in the energy of your life.

Much Love. ❤️

The Critic and the Mentor

Last week, I led a transformational workshop with a group of educators. One teacher referenced the inner critic, and a lot of nodding in agreement showed up around the room.

You probably have one of those inner critics too, don’t you?

It’s judgmental and it's pessimistic. It’s got a tone to its voice within our minds - some people say it’s the voice of an overbearing parent, others say it’s the voice of a demon. What’s the tone of your inner critic’s voice?

The inner critic, for those of us with one, is a part of us. It’s been there much of our lives, and it will continue to be there. 

While we think of the inner critic as a force opposed to us living a great life, the inner critic isn’t an enemy - it’s actually a friend. 

It wants the best for you. It wants to protect you. It wants you to avoid looking bad, avoid screwing up, avoid losing in this game of life. That’s why it does what it does.

The inner critic isn’t a problem. Our relationship to the inner critic is the problem.

Learning to "let the inner critic be" is the secret to getting our inner critic to let us be. 

How do you feel about your inner critic? That’s where meaningful work can happen.

An additional practice that can give us some space from the effects of the critic is to ask the inner mentor for advice. 

Like the inner critic, the inner mentor is there inside us too, it’s just less vocal than the inner critic. It’s there, like a teacher, waiting for you (the student) to come to it with a question and a request for help. 

I was at the gym earlier today, finding myself in a pessimistic mental and emotional fog that my critic was yapping away about. I thanked it for caring about me, then asked my inner mentor what it had to say. 

Its words were simple and effective, and the critic got quiet - it too was interested in what the inner mentor had to say.

Before I get on a call with a client or lead a group program, I read through a creation I have that's titled “My Coaching.” Here are a few lines from it:

• The answers are over there with them.

• I listen cleanly, and all I hear is gold.

• The truth is right in front of us.

Your inner mentor is always right there with you. It’s a wiser, more optimistic part of yourself than the critic, and it’s also there to help; it just does it a little more kindly. 

If you’d like to learn to tap into your inner mentor to help you thrive, reach out and let’s talk.

Much Love. ❤️

P.S. The more I explore my inner mentor, the more and more it seems to actually be a voice from beyond me altogether. It's as if learning to tune into what our inner mentor is saying is actually tuning into a Divine radio station where Grace gets verbalized in a language we can hear.