Rebel.

"i rebel by loving more" - Yung Pueblo

There are parts of myself that I don't like sometimes. And my kids' preferences bug me. And my initial reaction to the weather is to complain.

Yet I'm a rebel.

i rebel by loving more

My spouse. My kids. My dog. My house.

My height. My weight. My shape. My sensations.

My emotions. My thoughts. My mood. My stress.

My past. My present. My future. My "could be"s.

My job. My colleagues. My boss. My responsibilities.

My location. My weather. My commute. My scene.

One of my kids likes watching gamers on youtube. By default, I'm not interested at all.

Yet I'm a rebel.

i rebel by caring more

About myself. My health. My well-being. My peace of mind.

About others. Their well-being. Their satisfaction. Their enjoyment.

About the world. Its well-being. Its inhabitants. Its creatures.

My older son asks me to buy him things, take him places, and do things for him. My default reaction is almost always "No."

Yet I'm a rebel.

i rebel by giving more

Of my willingness. Of my time. Of my patience. Of my stuff.

James Dean. Rosa Parks. Margaret Sanger. The Buddha. Jesus. Paul Robeson. Susan B. Anthony. The Fonz. Morpheus.

There’s something inspiring about a rebel. They call to something within us. They breathe an air into us and cause our inner flame to flare.

Here’s what inspires us about rebels: they live for something beyond the default. The live for something beyond their fears, beyond what society and culture says is normal, beyond what we tend to think is possible.

They live for something beyond the illusions of "normal."

You want more love? Be more loving. 

You want more vitality? Be more interested.

You want more connection? Be more generous.

You want more peace? Be more trusting.

You want more fulfillment? Be more happy.

Rebel against what you think about yourself and others.

Rebel against what you think is fair. Rebel against what you think is impossible.

Rebel against your default.

This is the final revolution. The revolution our families need. The revolution our workplaces need. The revolution the world needs.

The revolution our souls need.

Rebel by creating your life, not just living some default life made up of default preferences.

Thank you for reading. ❤️

P.S. As a transformational coach, I help teens, adults, and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌

Powerfully Practical, and Entirely Spiritual

A couple months ago, a client of mine produced an extraordinary result in his life. Something that he’d been grappling with for a long time suddenly became clear and easy for him.

In our conversation last week, he reflected how that one moment of transformation a couple months ago has lasted. He’s made a change and he’s never looked back.

This transformation was powerfully practical, and it was entirely spiritual.

Most of the time, we think of our goals solely as something practical, something in the physical world we either achieve or we don’t. And because of this, we focus solely on the strategies, the technique, the doing.

Here are some examples:

Goal: Experience greater health and well-being. We tend to think that this is just a matter of actions we take or of physical quantities like energy-level, motivation-level, or genetics. 

Goal: Experience greater effectiveness at work. We think we simply need better strategies in order to perform better - strategies with our assignments and strategies for our relationships. 

Goal: Experience love and fulfillment in marriage. We think this depends on finding the right person, having the same preferences, or if we could just behave better towards each other.

Strategies are valuable, and they're not sufficient.

To achieve the worthwhile practical results in ways that feed our overall well-being, it generally requires inner work too. The spiritual work.

In other words, achieving our Goal-Line results requires Soul-Line work.

This is the work my client has been doing, and it's impacting every area of his life. It's what led directly to the extraordinary breakthrough I referenced above.

(In fact, it's the work that all my clients are doing, whether they recognize it or not!)

It's the inner work. The spiritual work. The soul-line work.

Aligning ALL levels of who we are. Integrity from our deep core to our bodies, words, and actions.

When we've done the work to align ourselves at all levels of our being, the results show up seemingly out of nowhere. Like magic. Like divine intervention.

And the truth is, it is divine intervention. By doing the inner work, the divine is better able to do its work.

Powerfully practical, and entirely spiritual.

Thank you for engaging with my work. ❤️

P.S. As a transformational coach, I help teens, adults, and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌

Anxiety, a Love Letter

Most days at some point - especially in the morning - my anxiety screams at me that THERE’S SOMETHING WRONG!

It yells to me to DO SOMETHING! 

It terrorizes me in the chest, grabs my shoulders, and squeezes my mind.

It looks me wildly in the eyes, and it tells me to f-ing find them! Find the problems with me, find the problems with my life, and SOLVE THEM NOW! 

It yells for me to avoid my commitments, to stay frozen in place, and to expend any energy I have in searching my mind and thoughts for the way out, for the way to freedom.

In an internal battle, anxiety is unrelenting. There's no way out, there's no backing down, and the game feels over before I've even had a chance to get my bearings. 

And...

I’ve fallen in love with anxiety. 

Anxiety is one of my greatest teachers. 

It's taught me awareness of my feelings and awareness of my unintentional mind. 

It continues to teach me courage, and it guides me to confidence.

It teaches me with choice: BE a victim to my feelings and thinking, or own my spirit’s ability to soar in ALL weather.

And wow, do I love to soar.

When I hear or feel the beginning whispers of anxiety, I no longer resist it or run from it. Anxiety is a love letter from an unseen teacher, a higher part of myself and the universe/God. I know that now.

But insights are a dime a dozen, and though transformation begins with insight, it gets realized in practice.

My morning routine is sacred to me. It’s an opportunity to meet my anxiety. An opportunity to commune with my heart, my mind, and my real desires. It has given me the space and the practice to fall in love with ALL of it. 

It’s not magic, but it’s so very magical.

Heaven is among us.

Which resistant, judgmental, and fearful part of yourself are you ready to let loose in order to be born again in love, passion, ease, enjoyment, and peace?

I’m here to help. Reach out if you’d like to honor the truest and deepest part of yourself over the unintentional and ineffective habits of mind, heart, and body that you continue to struggle with.

Thank you for reading my work. ❤️

P.S. As a transformational coach, I help teens, adults, and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌