When It Wasn’t My Morning...or Was It?

I was standing next to the coffee machine when I laughed, turned to a colleague standing there, and said, “This is not my morning.”

There were three really good reasons why it wasn’t my morning. 

1. The night before, I had a major disagreement with my family that I was still feeling strongly about when I woke up.

2. I printed a test and then put my backpack on a surface in the faculty copy room. That surface happened to be a paper shredder that ate a chunk out of my backpack!

3. I overfilled my tea thermos, burned my fingers, and made a mess of the faculty room countertop.  

Come on, aren’t those good reasons that this just wasn't my morning?

There’s nothing wrong with being reasonable - there are many times in life when it’s quite smart and wise to be reasonable - it’s much safer! But much of the time, being reasonable is living a life determined by some inherited (and usually pessimistic) way of thinking about ourselves, others, or the world. 

Being reasonable is one of the distinctions of the Mind Mastery Experience that I lead with groups. 

Being reasonable means living a life determined by reasons. It's allowing reasons to make our decisions. It's allowing reasons to determine what's possible for who we are and how we're showing up. It's living a life determined by our judgments about our circumstances. 

It's okay to be reasonable - we just mostly pretend that we're in charge of our lives, when we actually often give reasons all the power in our lives.

Immediately after I said, “This is not my morning,” I realized it was a lie. 

It was my morning! Every morning is my morning. It is! I’m here, aren’t I??? 

“This is not my morning” was the result of a judgmental and condemning outlook on my day so far. It was incredibly pessimistic and reasonable. And it was limiting.

Our unhappiness always has a reason.  

One of the participants in a Mind Mastery Experience in 2023 got in touch with a powerful possibility for himself: Living Unreasonably Happy. 

Imagine not needing reasons to be happy?

Being happy even while having lots of reasons not to be. Being happy even in challenging circumstances. Being happy even with unhappy feelings going on inside. 

Unreasonably happy. Unreasonably relaxed. Unreasonably at peace. Unreasonably forgiving. Unreasonably well.

Why not?

This isn’t something we need to force. In fact, it's not something we can force. When we learn how to live from emotional freedom and mind mastery, life-altering insight has room to arise. That's the business I'm in.

Being unreasonable is a form of surrender - it’s relaxing our grip a bit and allowing Grace to move us in the direction of a life fulfilled.

Much Love. ❤️