During one of the last couple Mind Mastery Experiences, a participant shared that they struggled with making a choice because they didn’t want to regret it.
You ever find it tough to make a decision because you don’t want to make the wrong one? Because you don’t want to regret the decision you make?
Regret is a choice.
Here’s how regret happens:
Me in the present, I think back to something I did or didn’t do in the past.
Me in the present, I judge that action or inaction.
Me in the present, I feel the feeling of regret (disappointment, remorse, sadness).
The mind makes up that regret is about the past, when in fact regret is the result of present judgment about the past.
If I am the one judging my past actions or inactions, present me is therefore the source of my own regret. Not the past version of me!
Regret is the result of judgement, and judgment is a choice!
Sure, most of us have a lot of judgmental thoughts that we’re not meaning to think - they’re unintentional thoughts, default thoughts. The problem isn’t having unintentional/default judgments.
The problem is that we buy into our judgmental and default thoughts! We believe them! We empower them!
The problem is that we use our incredible power of the Self, our will, to feed our judgmental and regretful thinking with energy.
Here’s one alternative to feeding our soul’s energy to judgmental thinking:
Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an access to love.
Where there is judgment, there is no love. Where there is forgiveness, judgment is released and love becomes possible.
Forgiveness is an intentional practice. It occurs in our:
Language: “I forgive myself for doing ______.” “I forgive myself for being ______.”
Feelings: generating compassion, understanding, love, and release.
Body: relaxing.
Each moment of our lives is an opportunity for us to choose our being, how we respond, and what we empower.
If regret is a choice you've been making, what could you choose in its place?
Much Love. ❤️
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