Some relationships in our lives seem naturally positive and strong without any effort at all.
Most of our relationships, however, take work to keep them alive, meaningful, and generating positive energy in our lives.
Especially our most important relationships - they take attention, care, and intentional effort.
Like a marriage that seems to have lost its spark - the spark may still be there, we just forget to tend the fire of the relationship from time to time. That fire isn’t likely to stay alive on its own without careful tending.
Last week I sat down and had a straight and compassionate conversation with someone very important to me. Our relationship had become strained and tense over the prior week.
I was tense. I was resistant. I was annoyed. I was afraid. I was a bit exhausted.
So I sat down, took a deep breath, closed my eyes, and said “Yes, my friend, it’s time!”
We’d had this conversation in different ways over the last few years, and this time I was very direct.
“Listen, my friend. I love you. I embrace you. I have all the room in the world for you. We want the same things. We both want love. We both want peace. We both want safety. We both want enjoyment. And we want those things at all times and in everything we do.”
“So work with me. Let’s use our powers of creativity for us.”
“There’s so much to do! Let’s do this together!”
You see, I was experiencing a misalignment with this someone, this key someone in my life.
Tens of thousands of scientific studies have been performed showing the bio-psycho-social nature of Self. These studies show that who we are is intimately connected to our biology, our minds, and our relationships.
Being one, whole, united, and authentic self means being aligned at all levels of our being. And being aligned at all levels of our being is all about relationships.
How do I relate to my physical body?
How do I relate to my mind?
How do I relate to my heart (my emotions)?
How do I relate to the people, communities, organizations, and institutions in my life?
Aligning ALL levels of our being - it begins with being agents in the health and well-being of all of our relationships.
It was on Saturday morning that I sat down and had this direct and compassionate conversation with the important someone in my life.
We got on the same page.
Relationships get wounded in our ignorance, in our immaturity, in our lack of awareness and lack of training.
Wounds aren’t a problem so long as we heal them. In facts, wounds are an opportunity for healing. It's the role of responsible adults to create the best possible conditions for healing to occur.
How are your relationships with all parts of yourself - your body, your mind, your emotions, and all the people, communities, organizations, and institutions in your life? How's your relationship with the Eternal, the Divine, the Great Mystery?
Where there’s a wound, bring healing, my friend.
Where there’s misalignment, bring intentionality and a commitment to align.
And if you don’t know where to begin, start here:
“Yes, my friend, it’s time!”
Much Love. ❤️
P.S. when you’re ready to level-up your ability to align all levels of your being, there are 2 ways to work with me:
One-on-one and relationship coaching (16+)
Mind Mastery group programs for your team, school, business, or organization.
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