What's Driving You? (Or do you have the wheel?)

I work with an artist in her early 50s. What’s been ongoingly opening up for her is a clear head. 

Her creative projects are alive and vibrant. 

She’s freer to be and is living more authentically. 

She’s listening better - to others, yes, and to herself.

Wisdom keeps falling out of her mouth during our conversations. 

I’ve got extremely little to do with her growth. Here’s what I do: I create a wide open space for her to express herself and to be seen and heard, and I ask questions and make bold statements here and there that allow her thinking to jump onto new tracks - which allows her being to jump onto new tracks. 

She’s also a phenomenal mother. Trust me - she’s phenomenal. AND still: one of her takeaways in our last conversation was that she’s never really thought about who she is as a mother.

Most of us don’t think much about what drives us in our relationships, in our jobs, in our lives. 

Yet something is always driving us - and if it’s not us holding the wheel, we're letting someone else do it.

Fortunately for most of us, though, our deeper commitments and values are always poking out, and a heart-centered listener (including ourselves) can hear them.

Who are you as a mother, father, son, sister, friend, colleague, teacher, leader?

If you don’t choose it intentionally, you’re choosing it unintentionally. And there are consequences to every choice.

Much Love. ❤️