It’s too hot.
It’s too humid.
It’s too cloudy.
My task list is too long.
I’m too fat.
I’m too skinny.
I’m too old.
I’m too tired.
I need more money.
People are too selfish.
People aren’t kind enough.
My spouse isn't compassionate enough.
This is too much.
Our preferences get in the way of what we really want.
Really.
We ultimately have one problem in our lives: we think that satisfying all of our preferences is what we really want.
It’s not.
What is it that we all really want? Happiness and peace of mind. Satisfaction and well-being. Enjoyment and flow. Love and belonging.
The power of effective meditative practices and transformational conversations is that we move beyond the surface-level preferences that create our own personal hell.
When we move beyond those preferences and get in touch with what we really want, we can’t help but realize that we’re much closer to our goals than we think.
Preferences are the ego’s way of distracting us from the Truth: each of us is already whole, complete, and perfect.
Why would we want to be distracted from that?!
Because living in the moment can be terrifying...
Trusting ourselves and honoring the truth percolating up from the core of our being. Speaking with integrity. Acting with integrity. Living with integrity.
We betray our True and Authentic Self, and we resign ourselves to a life of fighting for our preferences. Yes it can be incredibly uncomfortable and unsatisfying living like this, but it’s oh so much safer.
The alternative is to be honest with ourselves and others. This would have us ignore the siren’s call of infinite distractions in this technological age. This would have us commit to being courageous and living life in alignment with the Divine voice that each of us has whispering to us throughout the day.
Try it out, for just a day: notice how your preferences are always pinging you, bothering you, distracting you from…something.
What is it that your preferences are distracting you from?
There’s gold here to mine. And believe it or not, our future and the future of the world depends only on our willingness to honor the ever-present whisper of truth flickering like a candle flame within us.
And it flickers within all of us. All. Day. Long.
Choose: react from your preferences or honor who you really are.
Thanks so much for reading. 🙏❤️
P.S. As a transformational coach, I help people and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌
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