Trying to Make Me Feel Okay

How are you?

(It depends on what I'm thinking.)

How’s your day going?

(It depends on what I'm thinking.)

How was your weekend?

(It depends on what I'm thinking.)

Even when I’ve spent a day struggling - how has my day been? 

It depends on what I’m thinking.

Our thoughts aren’t everything. In fact, our thoughts are very little. It’s how we listen to our thoughts that determines their value and their impact. 

Over the last few days, I’ve had a decision on the table. Whenever my mind started revving into worry or analysis, I remembered this:

The mind is a gift. When it worries or over-analyzes, it’s afraid I won’t be okay. It’s searching for a way for me to feel okay.

And I remembered this:

The mind gets its energy to worry from fear in the nervous system and uncertainty in the heart. The way to settle that energy isn’t to figure it out with the mind - it's to allow the problem-solving, worried mind to settle on its own as its fuel source gets defused.

With unconditional feeling. With gentle presence. With caring attention.

Without needing to fix anything. Without needing to figure anything out. Without needing to fear anything.

I am not my mind. I am not my emotions. I am not my body. I am the space in which those parts of myself arise. 

My willingness to allow the parts of myself to be without needing them to be different - that’s the most important thinking I can ever do. Letting those parts be allows them to resolve themselves in the light of my own unconditional presence.

"I am safe. I can handle this. Thank you for the gifts you are. Thank you for looking out for me. I love you. I am safe. I can handle this."

These thoughts may start in the mind, but I’m only using them in my mind to focus it. Otherwise, I’m settling those truths into my body, into my heart, into my nervous system. 

How am I doing with that process lately?

It depends on what I’m thinking - not because my thinking is everything, but because my thinking impacts my experience of everything.

And I'm doing great with it. ☺️❤️

“There are no neutral thoughts. Every single thought is charged with a certain quality of energy. And when charged with Love, every thought can contribute to the healing of the planet and the transformation of the world.”

- Pierre Pradervand, The Gentle Art of Blessing

Much Love. ❤️