The Many Trailheads Into Healing and Wholeness

I asked a new client at the start of a conversation: “What’s present for you?”

She shared her feelings about her current situation - the tough ones, the challenging ones, the ones she felt stuck with and saddened by. She shared her thoughts too - her judgments, concerns, and regrets about the past; her fears and insecurities for the future for herself and her family; and her lack of clarity and direction in the present. 

And with each additional “What else?” question I asked, more came out. 

In any moment of our lives, there are potentially many ripples of energy moving through our minds, hearts, and bodies. And all we’ve ever been taught or modeled in life is how to react to them! 

My conversation with my clients always begin with getting present to “What’s so” in our experience. 

If we’re sailing a ship, it’s best to get present to the wind and the currents before directing our sails and rudder. This is the difference between sailing and not-drowning - a life of reaction is a life of not-drowning, whereas getting present to the what’s so in our experience gives us access to intelligence and wholeness in our responses.

Getting the what’s so of our experience loosens the sometimes jumbled knot of our experience. And when we separate those different threads, we can be with them individually, giving them the attention they may deserve. The challenges of life become much more navigable.

Any one of those many threads is a trailhead, a way in. 

A way into compassion. A way into forgiveness. A way into healing and wholeness. A way into beauty and holiness. A way in to showing up our best.

All healing and wholeness begins with getting present to what’s so.

Thank you for reading my work. ❤️