Listening Only for This in the New Year

When we open our mouths to speak, wisdom is right there.

Wisdom is a knowing. It’s not a “knowing” in the intellectual sense. Intellectual understanding really is the booby prize, a participation ribbon that carries very little significance on its own.

Wisdom is a resonance. It’s not a resonance with what we already “know” or what we’ve heard before or what we read in a book or saw in an Instagram reel. It’s an inner resonance, like when two instruments are perfectly in tune. 

Even when we’re talking bullcrap, lying, or manipulating, wisdom is there. It’s that part of us that knows we’re speaking dishonestly. It’s that part of us that knows integrity, honesty, and authentic expression are not this, but they're possible.

...Only when we we grow beyond the limitation of resisting, avoiding, or reacting from our fears.

This evening I had another incredibly insightful and powerful conversation with a client. We’ve found a beautiful rhythm in our conversations where she speaks until there’s nothing left to say, and I simply listen. 

I’m not listening to respond. I’m not listening to understand. I’m not listening to shift or to fix or to transform anything. I'm not listening to get somewhere.

I’m listening simply to be with her and her experience accurately and completely.

(Perhaps a more descriptive term than "listening" is that I’m experiencing the expression of life through her.)

Then, I ask or express from accuracy, towards accuracy. And it just so happens that it uncovers for her a deeper level of awareness and insight. 

“Accuracy is looking closely at what’s happening. It’s also slowing down, quieting down, and witnessing the inner dialogues, the inner feelings, and the inner desires at play in our lives.” - Read the original blog post here

When we get accurate, wisdom gets louder. It's like seeing the code behind the Matrix - and Truth and insight show up.

That's the power and magic of a transformational conversation, what my friend Pete calls our "Ministry of Deep Listening."

So here's the simplest and most profound insight that I can share in this final post of 2025, and it's what my client fully got in our conversation - not "got" like a good idea or like a lesson she's heard before and has come across again. No, she got it like a Truth that she'll never unsee:

"The small tweaks are what make the biggest difference."

Indeed.

Entering this new year, I wish you profound growth - spiritual, physical, emotional, mental, relationship, and effectiveness - through the tiniest of micro tweaks that best come from listening to the wisdom that's already always speaking to you.

If you want support in learning how to hear it and honor it, reach out and let's talk.

Happy New Year.

Much Love. ❤️