A dear client/friend is dealing with a sudden change in life.
This was not in his plan for the new year! No, this isn’t in his recipe for the perfect year or the perfect life.
What’s your recipe for the perfect life?
We’ve all got one. In fact, we’ve all got a recipe for the perfect moment each moment of our lives.
If it weren’t this cold or this warm or this humid or this cloudy. If I could avoid that person, or really be seen by that person. If he only did this, or she stopped doing that. If only the kids would consider this, or other drivers would stop doing that.
We think we know what would make everything better and perfect, and we get frustrated when things don’t go our way!
If only everyone else (and the universe) would cooperate with us, then we would get everything that we want!! The perfect life!
Of course, if it weren’t that thing bothering you right now, it would be something else.
After all, most of us have a resting state of being bothered by something.
You all know a person like that who complains about e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. Well, they may in fact be at the extreme, but we’re not far behind.
Really.
(This same game - of trying to get what we want and avoid what we don’t want - played out in the future has a name: worry. Worry has only two reasons: either we we won't get what we want, or we will get what we don’t want.)
My friend has gone through depths of emotion over this sudden change, and like any of us, he wants to move on!
Aren’t we often on the prowl for getting what we want?!
But here’s what’s been so inspiring about him during this time: he’s been standing in a commitment to use this experience as an opportunity to grow in his willingness to feel, to love, and to be okay.
To love more and to appreciate more. To learn more and to grow more. To trust more and to ground more.
He’s not just taken a lemon and turned it into lemonade. He’s taken a lemon and turned it into pure gold.
There is gold dripping all around us, each of us, all the time, and mostly we ignore it…to focus on our opinions, to focus on what we think would make things better.
My work with this friend has been about seeing the gold around us and living from the gold within us, and he has shown me an elevation in his being that has inspired and moved me.
May we all be so blessed and honored to see even an ounce of the beauty, love, and light bathing us every moment of our lives, even in the seemingly dark and lonely times...
Go find gold. You don’t have to look very far.
One last thing.
Perhaps you wonder why we are always seeking what we want and avoiding what we don’t want if it isn’t really the path to fulfillment.
Here’s the answer: it’s because we think (in our “bodymind”) that we’re not okay, we’re not enough, and we’re not worthy.
And each of those is a lie.
If you don't believe me, reach out and let's talk.
P.S. As a transformational coach - a life coach, a soul coach - I help teens, adults, and organizations move beyond their self-imposed limitations to be their best and feel their best. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you or your organization, reach out and let’s talk. 💌