Decide Ahead of Time How You’ll Show Up
Last week I introduced the most important list that we’re not creating: the To-Be list.
We've got a To-Have list of all the things we think we need in order to be happy, well, fulfilled, and in love. Whether we created this list form scratch or we bought into someone else's ideas along the way doesn't matter - we now live by this list ourselves.
So we create a To-Do list of all the things we think we need to do in order to get those things we think we need in order to be happy, well, fulfilled, and in love.
However, most of us never learn or think to create our To-Be list of all the ways we want to be.
You see, our BEING is the source of everything in our lives. It’s how we show up for ourselves and others, and it’s the source of all our actions and results.
Mostly, we move about our day and live from unintentional and default ways of being. We get in the car, arrive at work or elsewhere, return home, and engage with our family and others unintentionally.
We "show up" in situations in our lives without being intentional about how we're showing up!
My invitation to you: decide ahead of time how you'll show up in the situations of your life.
Before you get in the car to drive, decide who you will be on the road. Perhaps you’d like to be patient, relaxed, and forgiving.
Before you get to your desk at work, decide who you will be with your colleagues, clients, and task list. Perhaps you’d like to be engaged, creative, vibrant, calm, and intentional.
Before you get home and engage with your spouse and kids, decide who you will be in these relationships. Perhaps you’d like to be loving, generous, patient, and kind.
Before you head into your evening, decide who you will be about the abundance of media, responsibilities, and opportunities available to you. Perhaps you'd like to be creative, curious, productive, at ease, or enlivened.
Our BEING is the source of our entire experience of life. Deciding who we will be in the areas and situations of our lives is being intentional about how we're showing up.
Write your To-Be list: Decide ahead of time how you'll show up. Don't leave that up to chance.
Reviewing my To-Be list is the most important task of my day.
Thank you for engaging with my work. ❤️
P.S. As a transformational life coach, I help people move beyond their self-imposed limitations to fall in love with life and feel amazing. If you’re interested in finding out how I can support you, reach out and let’s talk. 💌