How to Have an Incredible 2025

Want 2025 to be a great year?

Then get 2024 complete. 

Getting 2024 complete is like turning the page on an already-full drawing in our sketchbook, so we have a blank new page to create 2025. 

Getting 2024 complete is like finishing a chapter before starting to write the next one. If we don't finish the chapter called 2024, 2025 will just be a continuation of last year.

Going into 2025 without getting 2024 complete is like putting up new drywall in a room with mold damage. If we don't remediate the damage to the wood structure behind the drywall, the new walls will get moldy too.

Most of us live life with one incompletion on top of another. 

We build defenses, personalities, and habits that help us cope with the past, and it leaves our present and future dependent on the past. 

Completion doesn't change the past, obviously. It does, however, change how we relate to the past - and this is where the possibility of freedom truly lies.

Within the last 24 hours I met with an 18-year-old client and a 69-year-old client. You know what both conversations had in common?

One was caught in regret, disappointment, and shame. The other was caught in judgment, self-righteousness, and loneliness. With compassionate inquiry, we accessed the originating incidents and completed them. In the space of that completion, there was relief, freedom, and empowerment. 

Now is the time to be doing the work to complete 2024 (and prior years that have been sticking around for a while!). Give this gift to your 2025 self.

As a transformational life coach, I'm masterful at supporting people to get complete and access a space of freedom and possibility in areas of life where they feel stuck, limited, stressed, or ineffective. As a former client said to me at a Christmas party last week: “working with you is the reason I get to live a life I love again.”

There are two ways to work with me: one-on-one and in group Mind Mastery programs with your school, business, or community. Take your level of completion and creation to a new level - reach out and let's talk.

Much Love. ❤️

A 3-Minute Transformation at Work

One morning last week, a colleague was feeling really off. 

We can tell when people are feeling down. It’s a lot of people a lot of the time.

They (we?) are carrying things around with us. We’re carrying sadness, despair, frustration, hopelessness, depression, loneliness. 

We feel for them. We feel with them. 

How are you?

“I’m doin’.” 

“I'm surviving.”

“Meh.”

This particular morning last week, I asked my colleague to share about it.

So she looked up, moved her fingers off her keyboard, and expressed what was present for her.

As she spoke, she said something BRILLIANT:

"I'm just trying to shove it down so I don't feel this way anymore."

☝️ ☝️ ☝️ ☝️ ☝️

Isn’t that what we do?! We try to shove it down.

With our friends and family who are struggling, we’ll try to help them get over it, move beyond it, or avoid it long enough to at least feel a little bit better.

I thanked her for sharing all of it with me, and then I acknowledged the power and insight behind that one statement.

I said to her about it, "It sounds like you're judging and hating that part of yourself."

Her mouth dropped, and she said: "That's it."

She excused herself to let the tears flow while the emotion released her.

When she came back, she was lighter, happier, and grounded.

Challenging emotions will release us when we are willing to release them.

They stick around because we shove them down.

They stick around because we judge them and ourselves for feeling them.

They become an enemy, something to fear, something to avoid, because we hate them to some extent and therefore hate this part of ourselves.

There's magic in the energy of ALL our emotions, and we miss it when we're busy shoving them down, running from them, or trying to numb them away.

It’s as if we have a scared, depressed, or angry child tugging on us from the inside. Resisting, avoiding, and reacting are not healthy ways to be with those kids.

Invite these parts of yourself up and let them go. You can handle them. They're a part of us in those moments whether we like them or not - and it's much more freeing and beautiful to meet them with love than to continue to meet them with judgment and hate.

Much Love. ❤️

P.S. There are two ways you can commit to leveling-up your emotional awareness and freedom by working with me:

- 1-on-1 coaching

- Mind Mastery training for groups

Self-Care or Self-Deception?

I think that one of the good things to come out of covid was the awareness that most of us can be doing a better job taking care of ourselves.

We see ads and get emails about the importance of self-care, our employers are reminding us of it, and we sign up for classes, get books, and start scheduling time for it. 

Long walks, meditation, yoga, sleep, our favorite show, our favorite vacation destination, whatever. It all helps.

For most of us, though, taking care of ourselves mostly means coping with the insecurities, fears, judgments, and triggers baked into our psyche over the decades. 

For most of us, self-care means figuring out ways to cope with a life that seems just too hostile and just “too much” at times.

Our limiting self-concepts, our judgments of ourselves and others and life, and our triggers filter EVERYTHING we see, and our self-care practices may not be healing them.

Our self-care routines may be treating the symptoms but not the underlying cause.

We think emotional freedom means the freedom to express our rage, disappointment, and fears AT the people in our lives.

That's not emotional freedom. That's emotional reaction.

We think self-care means phoning it in when we feel triggered or "up against it."

Settling the nerves at those times is self-care, but delaying, resisting, or avoiding dealing with the underlying sources of our triggers within ourselves is self-deception.

Next-level self-care is raising our emotional threshold. It’s showing up with integrity at our deepest levels. It’s clearing the gunk and cobwebs out of the joints of our spirit.

If we never explore and transform the ways we daily betray ourselves, we'll continue betraying ourselves no matter how many spa days we take.

If we never take responsibility for the countless ways we deceive ourselves, we'll continue to point fingers at the world and never fully step into our natural power, wholeness, and beauty.

🔥 The power of integrity, clarity, peace of mind, freedom, and love for life. 

🔥 Wholeness of Self, at all levels of our being - mind, heart, body, spirit, and relationships.

🔥 Experiencing the beauty and perfection of our pure, innocent, divinely-gifted, and unadulterated spirit.

See if you can add some freedom from self-deception to your self-care routine. THIS is self-care at ALL levels of our being. 

Much Love ❤️

P.S. There are two ways you can level-up your self-care routine by working with me:

• 1-on-1 coaching

• Mind Mastery trainings for your school or organization.